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A Letter to Our Brothers August 13, 2013

Filed under: Anti-trafficking,Freedom,Gender — Amanda Lynn @ 6:29 pm


There are so many things I want to tell you!

I’ll back up and let you know who’s writing you.

This is your sisters in Christ.

Well, it’s from one of your sisters, but it’s a pretty sure bet that most of us would say these things.


I usually write to/for/about ladies because well….I am one.

But I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it might be like for my brothers to live day-to-day in our culture.

When I think about it, just know I’m praying for you.

I pray for opportunities for you to showcase your God-given gifts in humility.

I pray for your eyes to be clear of any shame or insecurity or pride so that you can see His love and approval for you.

I pray for your strength to come from your never-ending supply. And that this Strength would help you kick that unrepentant sin, that lust crouching in the corner of your mind, that half-lie that says, “You’re not strong enough.” You aren’t…but then, you can be (see?).

While on the subject…let me say that being “strong” is not canceled out by your passionate worship of God. Not even for a second. Go on and gush about your love for Jesus and none of us will think twice about taking your man card. (In fact, we might just hand you an extra.) 🙂



So, where is all of this coming from?

Well, something I was not expecting in working alongside survivors of sexual violence is that I haven’t developed a resentment or a disdain for the men who are perpetrators. (This is by the grace of God alone). No, instead I have developed a deeper burden for these men and for the men in my life. The darkness of this area of sin has become more and more real to me lately and I see the hold that it has on people, especially men. And I want to you to know that if this is you I’m talking about, there is so much pain in sitting in that sin alone with your shame. Things that are kept in the darkness only grow stronger and stronger. It’s when you let the Light in that things take a turn for the better. Along with wanting to see these young girls taken care of and restored, God’s given me a new passion for seeing the hearts of men be turned toward Light and Truth.


Anti-human trafficking efforts have been calling out those involved in pornography and in the purchase of sex. And while this is absolutely good and absolutely needed, it can also lead to shame and defeat for those who are held captive by this sin addiction. I’m all about some grace, but I’ll say it loud and clear. What you’re doing is wrong. It’s hurting you and so many others in your life. That said, you are not “disgusting” or “unworthy”. You are sinner like me. My heart breaks for you and the sin that has made you its slave.


This is where I ask for your help. Who better to let other men know that all of this can be remedied by their belief and surrender to our Father who loves them completely…right there in spite of their sin? Who better to tell them that there is grace to cover them?

I need you – these girls who’ve survived sexual violence, the girls who are on the verge of being abused,…we all need YOU to “man up” and start fighting for freedom. You can fight the darkness with the Light that’s in you. And what better time than now?



man up!

The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.

:: Edmund Burke ::


Thanks guys!


Your sister (who believes this is what you’re made to do)


One Response to “A Letter to Our Brothers”

  1. sloggett Says:

    Reblogged this on The Safeties Off and commented:

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